Comments on: Maia 1, Mama 0

By: Damselfly

Damselfly — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:15:25 +0000

Aw, I feel for you. I remember the first and one of the few times I put Fly down and let him cry just so I could gobble down some food really fast. It was 2 pm and I hadn’t eaten! I know you’ll find a solution that works for you and Maia.

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:26:35 +0000

I have a Bjorn, which she adores. I tend to use it when my arms are tired moreso than as a comfort thing for her, but I should probably try that.

By: Lesha

Lesha — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:45:45 +0000

Have you considered a baby wrap (hug-a-bub, Maya, they’re the stretchy jershey cotten types good for new babies)? I used one with my guy when he was little (still using baby carriers today too). Hands free, on your chest, and she’ll most likely just fall asleep and be content there while you do what you need to do.

I think all moms have days like that though. Heck, not that long ago I did the same thing to my almost 2 year old. He was being such a grouch, I put him in his crib and let him cry while I just decompressed. I felt bad, but I also needed that moment. When you need the moment, take it…you end up a better mom for it, not a worse mom.

By: Cara

Cara — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 01:50:02 +0000

There were more than a couple of times when I was losing my mind that I just let my baby cry. There was some guilt, sure, but if I hadn’t taken those minutes, bad things might have happened.

By: mommyme

mommyme — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:53:05 +0000

Some times you just have to let them be and cry. It’s tough, but believe me when I say that it really isn’t hurting them. Have you tried elevating her crib mattress? I did that with my daughter because ALL of my kids have stomach issues and HATE laying flat on their backs. HATE IT! LOL!!

Do not feel bad about putting her down. It’s tough, I know, but just know that she is safe and you need some time to either eat, pee or just some breathing room. I had a 2 year old when I brought my little girl home and that was soooo hard!!! He needed me, she needed me….in the end there were time when she had to lay there and just wait a few minutes. And you know what….she is a very happy little 9 month old today!

Hang in there! You are doing so great!!

By: J.C

J.C — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:14:45 +0000

lol i felt exactly like that about trying a pacifier – and felt great when she rejected it wholeheartedly!
Hang in there. The time she needs you 99% of the time will pass, it was at around 3 months for Lauren, and in the long run it is a really short time. Maybe try and think of it like this – you only get now to have her all the time, soon she’ll be wanting to explore and you won’t get contact on tap, make the most of it cause it doesn’t last long and strangely, you’ll miss the time when all she needed was a cuddle from you to make her feel complete.
It gets easier – they reckon the first 6 weeks are hardest and you’re halfway through already!