Comments on: When baby cries, Mommy knows best… ?

By: The Mother

The Mother — Tue, 05 May 2009 03:15:46 +0000

First time parents spend a lot of time worrying about whether they’re doing it right. The problem is, you won’t know until they’re 30.

So it’s a lot easier not to worry.

Babies cry. Then they stop. You don’t even always know why. The good thing is they won’t remember, so it doesn’t really matter.

By: Cara

Cara — Sun, 03 May 2009 22:13:30 +0000

You weren’t wrong. Something was upsetting her, even if it was just that she needed a cuddle. We all worry about over/underreacting to our child’s needs. In my 19 months of experience I have second guessed pretty much every decision I have made and I have little doubt that I will continue to do so for the rest of her life. How’s that for optimism?

You’re doing great, mama!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 03 May 2009 21:41:15 +0000

I completely understand. My baby would calm for my husband at times when I could do nothing to help her. You just have to go with your gut and do your best. No one loves her like you. Yes, you will screw up. We all do. Motherhood isn’t about being perfect; it’s about raising a happy, productive child.

By: natasha the exile on Mom Street

natasha the exile on Mom Street — Sun, 03 May 2009 17:19:33 +0000

As far as I can tell, when it comes to parenting every decision that you make will be right, and every decision you make will be wrong.

It *IS* hard to trust yourself to do something new, especially when the stakes feel so high. Just know that you’ll find your rhythm with Maia, and just when you gain confidence she’ll change the tempo without letting you know. It’s just how it is.

By: Gala

Gala — Sun, 03 May 2009 16:39:54 +0000

You will find yourself “wrong” plenty of times over the next 18 years! But, the important thing is that you try. Over and over you try to be the best mom you can be. Sometimes you will do that amazingly well, and other times you will wonder how your baby put up with you at all.
Take comfort in the fact that you have Chris, family, friends, even the internet to help you be a good/better parent. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again–you are a great mom.

By: Myg

Myg — Sun, 03 May 2009 16:13:05 +0000

I can’t count the number of times in a day that I’m wrong around here

By: Jinxy

Jinxy — Sun, 03 May 2009 15:45:26 +0000

Sometimes I think our littles need a change of pace.

Lily did the same thing the other night. She wouldn’t stop screaming for me no matter what so Waldo took her and she settled right down. Its happened when he wasn’t home a couple of times so we go on a walk and that’s worked.

I don’t know for sure but I think sometimes when this has happened I get so worried because I can’t settle her that it winds her up even farther.

I have the same worry. I don’t want to be running to the doctor all the time but I don’t want to miss something important either. I could go crazy thinking too much about it.

Take a couple of deep breaths and live second to second if that helps.

By: existere

existere — Sun, 03 May 2009 15:07:46 +0000

You are also human, which should make it a little easier to swallow? The important thing is that you thinking about all this stuff, which is going to make you so much more self-aware and informed about future choices you make. Not thinking about it would be worrying. *hug*