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Comment on Ceci n’est pas une vase. by Gala

Gala — Fri, 11 May 2012 01:31:34 +0000

At first these pictures made me really sad. Then, after some time went by I realized how happy I was that you took the time to take the first picture. The vase was destined to break today. By coincidence you happened to snap a beautiful picture w/it in it. Now you have a nice memory/keepsake of something you two got together way back. You should be laughing back at the beast.

Comment on Ceci n’est pas une vase. by Tatiana

Tatiana — Thu, 10 May 2012 18:11:05 +0000

There is a lesson somewhere in here about not letting material things bring you happiness.

Comment on Re: Gina Barreca / Hartford Courant – “Women Falling for Fifty Shades of Degradation” by melissa

melissa — Wed, 09 May 2012 01:32:28 +0000

When you posted this link on your Twitter account, it made me so angry. This is not my feminism. I know you said this woman likes to present herself as a troublemaker, so maybe her tongue was planted firmly in cheek. I didn’t see the humor, only the meanness towards women who would dare like a book that has explicit S-E-X in it.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 17:38:15 +0000

Thanks. It blows my mind. I’m kind of hoping eventually someone can say that Cara is ‘right’ and explain to me why, when this is (literally, and I SWEAR it) all that happened.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Christy

Christy — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:57:54 +0000

That is the most ridiculous childish thing I’ve ever heard. I’m sorry that your one time friend is doing this to you. You don’t deserve this kind of treatment.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:27:19 +0000

Ugh. It would make me crazy to have to deal with this person regularly in real life, although maybe if we had been, things would make more sense.

This is shit, man. I’ve never really had to deal with something like this before. Usually my friendships end because we just drift apart.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by KP

KP — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:13:57 +0000

Dude. I’m going through a friend break up…well. Went through. Like, a month ago. BUT since it’s a friend that I know I WILL have to see/interact with again, I’m like, 80xs more sick to my stomach and resistant to go out where I may run into said person. Because I didn’t invite her to a dinner w/ a bunch of other girls. Like there is a rule I have to do that? Wtfever. For real. Also, she name-slung and told me to move back where I came from. Which is funny b/c she has a bitch ass-attitude that would fit in PERFECTLY with “where I came from” soooo perhaps she should move? Anyway. BF Breakups suck ass. They do. I don’t have any cunning advice aside from that. They’re not fun.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:30:33 +0000

I was fine with not knowing what happened, and I’m just going to have to get back to being fine with it. It’s when people who were not even remotely involved with any of this unexpectedly throw it in my (our) face(s) as a reason why our participation in something is unwelcome that absolutely blows my mind and is really, really hard to swallow.

As to another community, yeah. Not as easily done as said, unfortunately, but I’m working on severing ties there, at the least.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Gala

Gala — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:17:28 +0000

I’m from the generation of OLD, and I am assuming your friendship was strictly online? Not ever face to face or even phone? Honestly, I think it is very easy to think you are good friends with someone you met online just because you have things (maybe many things) in common. Also, I think it’s easy to offend online as everyone reads differently. But–nothing can take the place of face to face. So much is missed about people when you can’t see the little changeds to their faces, eyes, gestures, etc.
The age difference may also play into this. She’s in her early 20′s? A lot of living is done in the years between her and you.
It’s quite something at the lengths she has gone to to cut ties, so you really must have hit a nerve. That, or she’s a hypocrite and way into being high and mighty about how enlightened she is, and therefore showing just how stupid (for lack of a better word) she is.
I’m sorry this is so hard on you, and I feel for you. You will probably never get to the bottom of this, and somehow you will have to be okay with that. As for the community–again, I don’t know much about such things–if they judge you by what one person says, then maybe it’s time to find another community.

Comment on Holy drama llama. by Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:12:46 +0000

At the end of the day you would have watched me continue to cater to her childishness.

If a friendship is done, it’s done, it’s just all this shit with being painted as the bad guy by mutual acquaintances that is genuinely hurtful.