Comments on: Angry

By: Aria'z Ink

Aria'z Ink — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:34:26 +0000

I’m right there with you. Hubby is making me flat out Nasty-Mean lately. And then he’s Nasty-Mean right back. Ugly little cycle. Hope we both can break it really soon.

By: Melodie

Melodie — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:59:34 +0000

I’m sorry you are/were feeling so crappy. I hate it when I’m the only one who can put our kids to sleep too. I mean I can’t even go out past 9:00 because the youngest just refuses to sleep without me. One night I had to work and got home after midnight and she was STILL AWAKE! I know that’s only part of your anger but I get that part completely!

By: Maria

Maria — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 18:57:04 +0000

I love you, lady.

It’s okay to be angry.

Don’t feel bad about what you feel like are significant moments in your life. None of my top ones had anything to do with my kids. I think that’s because every moment with your kids is significant in a weird, dizzying way.

By: Gala

Gala — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 12:34:02 +0000

It’s ok to be angry. At whomever you want to be. The fact that you can admit that and deal with it, be it by writing, talking, crying, shopping–whatever–is the important part. Life can seem very hard at times, and it is hard at times. Lean on the people in your life, as they will help just by being there. It does take a village, however that village may be virtual. The reason this may be so hard is because you are trying to do it the “right” way. You CARE about how you are raising Maia..you CARE about your husband. You aren’t just saying “ok, I have a hubby and a baby, now everthing will just go on, happily ever after”…of course we all know there is no secret “right” way, but the fact that we try our damndest, is the important part.
Now, speaking about raising Maia in the US…I must take offense that this country isn’t good enough for her to be raised in. People from all over the world try their hardest to come to this country, for a better life. Yes, Canada has socialized health care, but that isn’t all that makes a country. Honestly, whomever is in office in DC really doesn’t effect me as much as who is in office in my town. Those are the people that impact my way of life on a daily basis, not Bush or Obama or whoever. Though it is good to be politically aware, I must admit when in the middle of raising a family, trying to make marriage work and paying bills, etc. politics can take a flying leap.
The most significant moment in life..well, that is a hard one. Yes, having a child is significant…but…it is birth. natural. almost everyone does it. I don’t think I’ve had my most significant moment yet. Maybe it will be when I fineally make MYSELF my priority. That doesn’t mean all of a sudden I’m a selfish bitch, it just means I realize that if I don’t do things to make myself feel fullfilled, I will just wither away.
Being a victim…I am so proud of you for being able to get yourself out of that situation. That is true strength, and NEVER feel weak about leaving. EVER.
I think I really went off on tangents here, but it was rather theraputic, so I thank you.

By: Marilyn (A Lot of Loves)

Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 05:00:15 +0000

I’ve been angry a lot too. Angry and tired (in fact I even wrote a little about that today). It happens sometimes. Sometimes I think it’s what’s in the air this time of year. That’s not to diminish what you’re feeling. Some of what you’re angry with I feel too. The Twitter thing for one. The baby not sleeping thing for another. Kids and their sleep issues are (I’m sorry to say) kind of a constant issue for quite awhile. Sometimes they sleep and then sometimes…who knows. It can be very draining I know.

By: humpsNbump

humpsNbump — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:46:27 +0000

You are wonderful. Although I am going to continue this comment with some more words, I want you to take THAT away, first of all.

As you know, I have been following your story since I started blogging about a year ago. I think both of us have gone through an incredible journey in having our little girls. I have had my weak moments, that I didn’t have the courage to share on my blog. I also felt angry. Very angry. Obviously new parenting makes those emotions that much more…. raw. The lack of sleep, the emotional roller coaster of becoming a mother, feelings of isolation, abandonment,frustration, not knowing the answer, not knowing who to talk to, can be consuming. But these things are often not the REASON that we’re angry. They just have a tendency to push other things to the surface, whether we are ready for them or not. I think you know what’s really bothering you and are in the process of trying to address it, which is incredible – and healthy, powerful and inspiring. I completely agree with another one of the comments that said “anger is always a manifestation of something else, some deep hurt, that we don’t feel we’re allowed to voice.”

You are incredibly strong. You. Are. Wonderful. I hope that you find that reaching out to your virtual friends, all of us that know you from a distance, will help you with those emotions.

I’m not a therapist, and I’m not trying to give you my unqualified advice. I just wanted to let you know that I’m listening. In fact, I’m tempted to pack up Amie tomorrow and head over there – it can’t be THAT far from Toronto! And really, I will if you want me to. Just say when.

Good luck,
Jenine

By: Desiree Fawn

Desiree Fawn — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:19:27 +0000

you’re in my thoughts — I hope things get better — they WILL get better!

By: Kekibird

Kekibird — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:09:35 +0000

Sometimes intention is the best we can do. Trying to not be angry is a step in the right direction. Keep your head up girl. It’ll come around.

You’ll be in my thoughts.

By: amotherworld

amotherworld — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 03:33:11 +0000

This is the time when you need to lean on your friends – whether it be virtual friends or not, remember that you are not alone!!! We feel your pain!

When life becomes unbearable, I say to myself “this is temporary, everything in life is temporary…. this too shall pass.”

By: Haven

Haven — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 03:16:17 +0000

Your post rings so true for most everything in my life right now. I wish I had the strength to put it all into words and out there. I wish I could be there for you physically, but since I’m not, I’ll be here for you here. Love/hugs
haven