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Top Stories of the Parenting Blogosphere in 2009

by Tatiana on December 31, 2009

2009 is the year I really started to pay attention to the parenting blogosphere.  Oh sure, I was pregnant in 2008, but I only really liked reading the blogs of other moms pregnant with their first, which doesn’t provide an accurate depiction of what’s going on in general.  This year, I like to think that — particularly due to Twitter — I’ve gotten a lot more well-rounded in the blogs I read, the people I interact with, and the news I hear.  Here, in no particular order, are what I think were the biggest stories of 2009:

BlogHer ‘09
This conference spawned many a blog post, both before and after the event, as well as its own spin-off for those of us who couldn’t get there — BlogHer@Home.  From the anticipation of what to wear to meet Tim Gunn to the Nikon party drama to swag whore behaviour to the aftermath of attendees recapping their experiences, talk of BlogHer ‘09 dominated the summer.

Maytag-gate
When Dooce’s Maytag washing machine crapped out, everyone heard about it.  Some people were pissed that she was “bullying” the company, others thought it was all overblown melodrama, and some were completely on her side.  In the end, though, a women’s shelter ended up getting some new appliances, and I think we can all agree that’s awesome.

Maddie (& Binky)
Madeline Spohr’s passing devastated the parenting blogosphere.  I don’t know of a single mother who heard this story and didn’t feel instant compassion for Heather and Mike and deep, abiding sorrow — and love — for Madeline.  The founding of Friends of Maddie, a charity in her memory that provides support to families with babies in the NICU, has provided a way for everyone to continue showing their love for this beautiful little girl who left us too soon. Heather’s pregnancy with Maddie’s little sister, dubbed Binky, has been avidly followed and cheered on, and we can’t wait to read about her in 2010.

Nic & the TSA
In October, blogger Nic White tweeted and blogged frantically about how TSA agents in Atlanta took her son out of her sight for ten minutes.  Parents were up in arms – how could such a thing happen?  It was terrifying!  An abuse of power! Err… not so much.  The next day, the TSA began sending out links on Twitter to a video that almost completely contradicted Nic’s story.  Some of us were angry at and hurt by Nic’s (apparent) lies; some supported her unwaveringly; some were concerned about how this reflected on bloggers as a whole.  Altogether, though, it was a really messy happening that strained, and in some cases broke, friendships.

Stellan
In July, Twibbons began appearing on people’s avatars for a little boy named Stellan.  He was having heart troubles and was in the hospital in critical condition.  We worried for him, we hoped for him, we prayed for him, and he emerged from his troubles victoriously.  Then, in November, he had a successful emergency procedure performed on his heart that has, hopefully, cured his ills and left him a healthy, strong little boy.

Anissa
In mid-November, Anissa Mayhew suffered a stroke.  The amount of support that poured out for her was (and remains) incredible.  130 bloggers showed their love for her in an incredibly touching video and there have been countless blog posts and tweets praying for her, as well as an online auction to raise funds for her medical expenses.  Her recovery has been incredible thus far and we’re all looking forward to hearing from her in the new year.

Aiming Low
Related to Anissa, she founded Aiming Low, a website with an all-star roster of female bloggers dedicated to being “perfectly not-perfect exactly as you are“.

Nestle Boycott
Spurred by the list of attendees of the Nestle Family conference, Annie of PhD in Parenting (whose influence makes her practically a top story in and of herself) spearheaded a movement to raise awareness of a Nestle boycott that has existed since the 70s in response to their formula marketing practices.  At Halloween, the #boonestle hashtag was established to help tweeps show their support for and/or participation in the boycott.

Military Mom
In December, Shellie Ross experienced the loss of her two year old son by drowning, a tragic event bookended by tweets.  News outlets and other bloggers called her monitoring of her son into question, but some were quick to show their support for her through her grief.

Honourable mentions:
The first Type-A Mom Conference
Twitter parties (in particular #GNO)
Books – The Mominatrix’s Guide to Sex, Kirtsy Takes a Bow, The Pioneer Woman Cooks

What did I miss?  What were some stories of 2009 that you found to be particularly powerful?

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Nic

by Tatiana on October 18, 2009

On the heels of my last post, where I love on my bloggy family, comes the news about Nic and the TSA.  When I first read her story, I felt righteous indignation on her behalf; I thought her writing was a bit overwrought, but very few of us (and certainly not me) are beyond using dramatic language to convey a sense of the emotion we felt in a given situation.  I sort of shook my head and dismissed her tweets about selling her story, since it seemed to me like adrenaline-driven ranting.  And to be honest, I’m fine with that, because on Twitter I find that there’s a lot of sarcasm, in jokes, exaggeration, and revealing comments that people would probably not say face-to-face.  These are the tweets I kind of shrug off and ignore, in general.

When I woke up the next morning to a tweet from TSABlogTeam pointing me towards their blog post in response to Nic (I assume they messaged me because I RT’d Nic’s post because “everyone else is doing it” — yes, I gave in to peer pressure), I had to go check it out.  I didn’t watch the entire video.  I didn’t need to.  I just read the words, the comments left by visitors, and the tweets just beginning to buzz among my friends: Nic’s story didn’t ring true.

I watched the ranting on Twitter: “Nic’s in hiding!  Why isn’t she responding to the TSA?”  Nic had posted that she was going on a cross-country flight, and I tried to calm one person by telling her this, but to no avail.  The witch hunt had begun.  The judgments were being handed out, and there was no way to stop them.

This is when I started to feel angry at Nic.  I believed her.  I have been talking with her off-and-on since July; I’d call her a casual friend of mine.  Certainly, she owes me nothing, but I have seen her be so supportive, kind, and friendly to people, to me, that I never expected deception from her.  I could have accepted if she added some melodrama and exaggeration to her tale for the sake of a “better” story.

Then she posted her apology, and I got angrier.  All I got out of it was that she accused the TSA of doctoring the video footage.

REALLY, Nic?  REALLY? Please.  Give your readers, and yourself, more credit than that.  If you lied, own up to it.  Yeah, you fucked up — on a pretty grand scale, at that — but you know what?  A lot of us were rooting for you.  As messed up as it might sound in retrospect, we wanted you to have been wronged.  We wanted your story to be true, so much so that we never questioned it.  So much so that when the TSA came out with their side, we felt personally wronged, and betrayed.  We felt like you used our goodwill towards you as cheap currency … for what?  I don’t believe you wrote that passionate post and asked us to RT it for pageviews.  So what did we help you achieve? And why did you need to use us to achieve it?

Those questions are, I think, at the root of my anger towards her.  I trusted Nic, and now that trust has been broken.

If Nic messaged me tomorrow asking for love and support, I’d offer her whatever I could.  My anger doesn’t preclude me from worrying about her and her family, nor does it allow me to shrug off the insults and vitriol being spewed at her.

Above all else, though, I’m left with one abiding concern:

What else has Nic lied to us about?

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This one’s for you

October 14, 2009

When I established this blog, I decided to keep it open and honest, basically as an online journal; I never considered making nicknames for myself and my family, nor censoring which pictures and videos I would post.  I do not share my last name or exact city, but I don’t fret over people finding those [...]

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NetworkWithMoms.com

July 23, 2009

If you follow me on Twitter (and you should!) then you’ve heard me pimp out my new project, NetworkWithMoms, a few times.  But let me talk about it here so I can provide a bit more information than can be summed up in 140 character blurbs, and hopefully get a few of you excited, interested, [...]

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Pretty little bling

July 20, 2009

This site formerly hosted a monstrosity of a badge which we will no longer even acknowledge existed.  So, if you would like to have a 125×125 badge on your site to link back to me, here’s my new one, courtesy of Nicole of Grudgemom:

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Babies of 2009 Blog Carnival

July 1, 2009

Welcome to the Babies of 2009 Blog Carnival!  I am so happy to be hosting this and dearly hope that all of us 2009 (or near 2009!) moms can meet a few new people through this.  Since BlogCarnival.com is a waste of internet space, just add a link to your post in the comments and [...]

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Upcoming Babies of 2009 Carnival!

June 18, 2009

As of July 1st, the year 2009 will be halfway over.  ALREADY!  It feels like New Year’s was just yesterday.  For those of us who have been taking care of babies this year, time has flown by (although on those long, sleepless nights, it sure didn’t feel like it!)
In the spirit of celebration, I’m hosting [...]

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Then afterward, I spilled a beer on my father-in-law, so altogether, you could say it was a pretty phenomenal day

June 9, 2009

Saturday morning, we woke Maia up from her nap (I know, are we crazy?) and bundled ourselves into the car to head to Toronto for a Pre-BlogHer Toronto get-together.  I was super-excited, and anxious, about meeting some other local bloggers, and even though I wasn’t really sure what Chris would be doing the entire time, [...]

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My Master Plan

January 2, 2009

I am hoping, before the baby gets here, to set up this blog on its own domain — then I’ll be able to set up photo albums and videos, along with having way more control over the layout and whatnot.  Buying the domain name is cheap, like $3 thru GoDaddy or whatnot, but webspace runs [...]

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